Like many people, for much of my life I've struggled with a few things that I have, for whatever reason, judged as broken, bad, wrong, or just plain stupid!
I could go back and trace where I picked up those judgments as real and true for me. I could change them... any time I like. No matter how many lies I tell myself that:
- "I cannot change it"
- "It's too hard to change"
- "That's just the way things are"
- "It's far too late to change them now"
- "I just have to live with it and make the best of it"
- "Nobody will like me if I do change things"
What I've found is, all those reasons and justifications are only as real as I choose to make them. What I've also found to be true for me is, they cover up the truth that I've just not been willing to choose something different.
It's really that simple.
You choose it until you don't.
When you're ready and willing to choose something different, all those reasons and justifications for keeping things the way they are fall away. There is no "right" or "wrong" time to choose something different. You choose it when you choose it.
The thing is, in this reality and world we're taught to judge ourselves as harshly as we can until we do choose what the world tells you should choose to make your life and the world a better place. Question: Has judging you ever created the change you desired to create? For me, the answer to that is a big fat NO! The more I judge myself, the more harshly I judge myself, I find the more I lock into place the things I've been telling myself I should change. Well what if I don't have to change anything. Ever.
Yup. You don't have to change ANYTHING about you. EVER. It's just a choice.
What I've found to be true for me is that the only times I choose change, is when I'm truly inspired and lit up by what I'm aware of that the choice to change will create. For example: I don't need to change my body shape... What I can do is be in total allowance with it no matter what it looks like. For me, it creates much more ease and joy in my life when I'm not judging my body in any way at all, and just receive it. When I don't judge myself and my business, or "should" on myself about what I've been told I "should" be doing to have a successful business, I get to have greater awareness of what my business actually requires. I get to choose what would be most fun for me that will create the most.
Do you get that every time you judge yourself you contract you and how visible you are in the world? Do you get that every time you judge yourself you limit what you can receive AND you limit the gift you can be in the world.
This is not about a "cost/benefit comparison". It's about looking at what your choice to judge you incessantly is creating. And is it fun for you? Is it ease for you? Does it expand your life? Do you value making yourself small, insignificant, powerless, and impotent more than you value being your greatness, and infinite potency to create the life you desire with ease, joy, and glory?
And you know what...?
It's OK if you're not willing to choose the latter right now. You don't have to choose to make your life look like it's come from the same cookie cutter as other people. You're not broken, bad, or wrong, because your life looks different. You don't have to spend countless hours judging you and cutting bits off to try and make yourself look like you were cut from the same cookie cutter as those around you. But you can if you like. It's not wrong.
Just for today, just because you can, I invite you to get really aware about where you are judging the crap out of yourself and get curious about what else would be possible for you if you didn't. You don't have to change anything. Just get kindly curious about it.
For me, I've made the demand to stop judging myself for anything. I've made the demand of me to stop making judgment real, relevant, and significant. For me... now IS the time. I KNOW that I am a greater gift and contribution to the world when I stop judging me and when I let go of making judgment real and relevant. Are you willing to make that demand of you... no matter what it takes?
At this time of year, Christmas and New Year I mean, it can be very easy to get caught up in the hype, trauma, drama, and stories of people around us. The stress of buying presents, not buying presents, buying the food, cooking the meal, family relationships, over-eating, stressing about how you're going to pay for it all, and so on...
Question - How much of all that stuff is even yours?
I found myself stressing the hell out of myself this morning about money. I wouldn't mind, but I have more than enough money for this month and beyond! And yet... there I was panicking about how I was going to pay the council tax tomorrow.
Bring on the first of my favourite tools from Access Consciousness™ - who does that belong to! This tool has been, and continues to be, such a gift to me. The moment I asked the question, I immediately felt relief. Awareness - OH! None of that was mine. Cool. Now what else do I get to choose?
The thing is, when I first heard about that tool - I tried it. Sometimes it seemed to work, others it didn't. I realised that I was still hanging onto the point of view that if I was feeling it, it must be mine, and therefore must be true. Interesting point of view huh?
And that, my beautiful friends, is the second of my favourite tools from Access Consciousness ™ - Interesting point of view, I have that point of view. Everything is just a point of view. Our reality is created by our point of view. If we perceive everything as just an interesting point of view, without making it meaningful and significant, we get to choose whether to hang onto that point of view or not.
So when I noticed I had the point of view that "if I'm feeling it, it must be mine" I just repeated "Interesting point of view... I have that point of view". No pressure to change it. No judgment of having it. Just acknowledging that it's an interesting point of view, and that I currently have that point of view.
The third of my favourites tools to share - Acknowledging.... I have found that when I don't acknowledge something I end up buggering myself over with it - and not in a good way! This, I've found, is especially true with awareness. If I don't acknowledge that I am immensely aware of what's going on around me AND in the whole world, I end up trying to function from other people's realities and points of view. And that beautiful people, will really screw you over!
So I invite you to play with these tools over the festive period - whether or not you celebrate "Christmas" and "New Year", you will still most definitely be aware of people who do and the insanity they function from. I wonder - is it really that much fun for you to keep functioning from other people's insane and fucked up realities and points of view?
If you'd like to know more about these tools, you may like to visit www.accessconsciousness.com
What if this year you could have more ease than ever before? What if this year you played with these tools and Be'd the space of allowance to create and experience something even more delicious and fun-filled?
I'm off to grab a mince pie and glass of sherry... I wonder what else I can choose today that's fun for me? And what about you? What will YOU choose?
I've been playing recently with receiving. Cognitively I get that being willing to receive everything is an amazing contribution to relating my life.
There are clearly still things I’m unwilling to receive, otherwise I’d have in my life many more of the things I would like to have.
So what is that? What is this unwillingness to receive some things, and only receive others. I could go into lots and lots of justifications and explanations of “why”. I call bullshit on that. What’s underlying that. I wonder what is the thing that I’m most unwilling to receive that if I would be willing to receive it would open up my receiving of everything to an even greater degree with even more ease?
You know, it’s judgment. I’m unwilling to receive judgment. Whether it’s judgment you would define as “positive” or “negative” or “good” or “bad”. I’ve realised I’m unwilling to receive judgment. So what’s that about? I wonder…
Judgment is bad, wrong, evil, contracting, unhelpful, limiting, unrequired, undesired, and, and, and….
Or is it?
What if judgment is just information?
Another thing that more recently I get more deeply, is that judgment isn’t real. As long as I make it real, I live at the effect of it. No matter whether it’s “positive” or “negative” judgment. When I'm functioning from the space of making judgment real, I’m always having to decide whether or not I should receive the judgment or not. The energy and time I have to put into evaluating each and every judgment as it arrives… That’s exhausting! And it’s totally distracting! AND it’s no fun at all!
I wonder… What’s it going to take for me to perceive, know, be, and receive all judgment as just information? As I write that line my whole world just opened up.
It’s just a choice.
Yes, yes, I know that can be one of the most searingly frustrating responses. I wonder how frustrated we allow ourselves to get before we are willing to choose something different?
So making that choice… Will it change overnight? Maybe… But probably not. So what if you would be in allowance of you and ALL your choices - past, present, and future. What if you could just keep choosing and be present with all your choices it becomes easier. A question you can ask when you’re choosing something “is this expanding or contracting my life?”. When you’re functioning from receiving judgment as just information is that contracting or expanding your life? What’s true for you?
Making choices and being present with your choices is like a muscle. You have to exercise it for it to grow. The more you choose it, the easier and more natural it becomes. Are you willing to make the demand of you to commit to you, have your own back, and let go of judging you?
Is now the time? The time is now… Now is the time...
Absolutely right. You can't lose weight.
What the fuck?!
Truth: are you an infinite Being with physical body, or are you just a physical body?
For me, what feels true for me is that I am an infinite Being with a physical body. Taking that as our premise for this blog, who has the extra weight that you'd like to lose, you the infinite being or your physical body?
As an infinite Being, is there anywhere you are not? And is there anything you do not know? So if you the infinite being are everywhere and know everything, can you ever lose anything?
Following a different perspective, does my body lose weight, or does it transform it's shape and mass? and what if my body can be any shape it would like to be? Indeed, have you even asked your body what shape it would like to be? What if the shape of your body has absolutely fuck all to do with how much it appears to weigh?
So when it comes to telling myself "I cannot lose weight" I am absolutely correct. So do I just give up and keep on judging myself as useless, fat, and unable to have the body I desire? Or do I ask some questions? What I if I can also choose something different. what if I can let go of all my fixed points of view about weight, heaviness, body shape, and how easy it is to change and transform my physical body? What if I can ask my body what shape and weight IT desires? What if i can ask my body what it requires and desires to assist it to be the shape and weight it desires? What else is possible here that we've never even considered? What questions can you ask that will gift you more ease, communion, and joy with your physical body? But don't ever choose that eh... you might actually change the shape of your body with more ease than ever before than that would be really bad.
Ever heard anyone tell you that "where there's muck there's money"?, or maybe "where there's muck there's brass"?
In many ways this could actually be true. Let's say, for instance, you own horses. You could potentially sell the horse poo (manure) and make shitloads (literally!) of money!
However, is there always money where there's muck?
See I wonder where we've mis-identified and and mis-applied that saying to mean that wherever there's crap there's money? And to take that further, because we've sometimes mis-identified and mis-applied it as ALWAYS being the case, how often have we (and do we!) create crap in our life in the hope it will make us money?
What if, instead of concluding that ALL doodoo creates dosh, what if we could ask a question instead? A question like "truth, will this make me money?" Simple as that. "Truth, will choosing this, or creating this, make me money?". Then you follow the lightness. Sometimes doodoo will create dosh, and sometimes it won't. What would it take for us always to trust our awareness? Are you willing to make the demand of you always to ask a question, and to trust your awareness regardless of what other people are choosing?
So... where there's poo in your life right now - is it making you money? If not, is now the time to flush it away before you get totally buried by it?
When it comes to committing to you and your life and what you would like to create as your life, have you committed to it yet?
So many awarenesses and places this blog could go!
I'm going to start with this one: where am I lying to myself!
So for the last 6 months to a year I've been asking the Universe to show me everywhere I'm lying to myself. Seems committing to me and my life is one of them! Damn - and I really thought I'd been doing that for the last 6 months too!
Rather than go into judgment of me, I asked a question - what's stopping me from committing to myself and my life? The awareness I had this morning: I'm waiting for it to be perfectly the way I would like it to be and then I'll commit. Doh! that's cute and not bright!
When you buy (or move into) a new home, you don't expect it to be perfect already right? You move in and change the decor and garden etc according to your taste and preferences after. It's very rare to find a home you can move straight into and it will be perfect from the very second you enter. For starters you still need to put your furniture in the places you'd like it to be. It's an ongoing process of enjoying your home.
And have you ever noticed that it never stays "perfect"? Things require attention and maintenance. Things require cleaning and replacing. It never stays exactly the same. And what if this constant change IS perfection? Nothing ever really stays the same, much as we sometimes wish it would. That's the route to self-sabotage, stagnation, and self-destruction. Except we're infinite beings and can never be destroyed. Thus we can find ourselves sitting in a box that we created that we absolutely know is not fun. How long will we continue to choose that for? How long will we wait for things to change before we allow ourselves to create and have more fun?
What if committing to our life is part of this constant change and creation? And what if we let go of all the expectations about what our life "should" look like before we allow ourselves to enjoy it? What would that create for the world? What doors of possibilities would that open up? What would happen if we actually stopped judging our life as not perfect and/or "not quite perfect yet"?
Life is not something we create as "perfect' and then settle down to stagnate. Although I know it's possible to get caught up in that way of thinking.
So what happens next? We have this awareness and what do we do with it? What else is possible here beyond anything we've never considered before?
Are you willing to make the demand of you to commit to you and your life no matter what? Universe show me what my life would be like if I would totally commit to my life... What's it going to take to commit totally to my life? What amazing contribution would it be if I would commit totally to my life right away?
Is now the time for you to stop waiting for everything to be perfect and instead to acknowledge that everything is already perfection?
So there I was trying to get my mouse to work this morning and would it go in the direction I required it to go? Would it buggery!
I felt myself going into frustration! "what's wrong with this fucking mouse?" And the question there is?! Errm - that'll be a conclusion with a question mark attached....
Feeling the frustration I realised I was getting into conclusion and contraction. So I asked: OK so what's right about this I'm not getting? Which is a great question and very different to "what's wrong with me?" which is where I would have gone in the past.
Took my hand off the mouse to inspect it (it's a wireless mouse for an iMac) and noticed I had the mouse upside down! bahahaha!! The power of questions overcomes stupidity ;-)
So if things aren't quite going the way you'd like right now, what's right about it you're not getting? What information do you require to change it or create something different? What else is possible that you've never considered? What questions can you ask that will contribute to you and what you've got going on for you right now?